"Man is condemned to be free; because once thrown into the world, he is responsible for everything he does. It is up to you to give [life] a meaning."
- J.P. Sartre
There is a great variety of initiations that we can accept and take on. It can be with an order or fraternity or it can be with a conclave or family. No matter the level of exoteric presence it still remains that we will find a form of lineage present and someone being the wielder and protector of this lineage and its legacy.
These forms of initiations are different from the initiations we encounter in established religious denominations in its collective acceptance of your willingness to partake. For instance a Catholic baptism makes you a part of the Church, and there is really no threat in being excommunicated, unless you have assumed holy office, and it is here the strand between a spiritual denomination and a religious institution meet, in the commitment.
The deeper the commitment, the greater is the investment and when the house of cards falls like broken dominos in unthinkable shitstorms, the resentment and anger is getting its fuel in expectations broken and thwarted. We see this taking effect in groups consolidating to speak against some spiritual leader or denomination in the name of the suffering inflicted upon the pilgrim. The suffering is always about realization and in this experience of realization the pilgrim can become sentimental and judgmental.
A commitment is a pledge and a promise and holds the entire idea of committing yourself to something. As a free man or woman making a willing commitment to something it is not possible to scapegoat circumstances, as free actors in our life the blame can only fall on yourself or on the other. And to approach this in more distant and objective terms the bond between Self and the Other. Because let us face it, if the bee stings your hand as you reach for the sweet dish you bought, you will blame the bee, and not the sweetness in between. Because of reaction and sentiments we always misplace whatever happens around us in relation to our idea of Self worth. This can raise the voice of the inner Critique as much as it can erect shields and walls to protect the egoistically defined Self.
No matter the ambition embedded in the modern democratic world view, you are always better Self served in pursuing what you are instead of what you want to be.